"Top 7 Conversation Tips For Dating"

Going from dating online to offline dating can be a frightening one! There are many who feel as though they’ve bared their souls to some unseen someone and when they meet for the first time find that they are afraid of having nothing left to talk about.

Well, you're about to learn tips that will have you and your date getting along real smoothly.

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Remeber that one of the best things about getting to know each other before you actually meet is that you have a great beginning for future conversations. The hope is that the person you are interested in meeting offline is someone with whom you’ve corresponded a great deal and got to know fairly well.

So draw from the conversations you’ve held online whether by email, instant messenger, or even phone calls you may have had in the past. If this is a person that you are considering the possibility of having a relationship with, the hope is that you won’t ever exactly run out of things to say.

It is understandable to be nervous however, so here are a few conversation starters for you to try out.

1. Pick a topic you have started recently

One of the easiest things to do is to use conversation topics that you were talking about in the last conversation you had, such as when you were on the phone arranging this meeting, and pick something light and humorous from that and use that as a starting point. It's a great way to make the conversation 'join up', which is what you do with friends anyway, so it's a great way to make him or her feel at ease.

You can also later on remember the things you’ve discussed before meeting, ask him or her about some of his or her interest, if it’s basketball game, look up the latest scores before the date and ask about his or her team. He or she will be impressed that you were thoughtful enough to go that extra step and will have something to talk about that he or she enjoys.

2. Compliment them.

You are meeting this person you’ve been talking to and corresponding with (imaginably for quite some time) there should be something about them that you can compliment, something that drew you to them off the bat.

And you can compliment someone and be subtle about it.

How?

You simply be positive about something, and sound friendly instead of sounding like you're using a pick up line.

3. Listen well

When he or she is talking, listen. But it's more than that. I mean show that you are listening by giving the signals that they should continue.

What are the signals? Simple. They are 'uh huh', 'yes' or simply nodding. They are called 'minimal encouragers' and the person seeing and hearing these things from you instantly feel at ease. And this is a good thing for helping you both feel at ease with each other.

4. Expand on the topic

When it's your turn to speak, expand on the topic that the other person is talking about.

When someone is speaking about something they like or that they're interested in, there's nothing more frustrating than to have the other person abruptly change the subject for no reason. It can be seen as a bit rude, uncaring and a sign that you're not interested in the other person.

Instead, expand on the topic, ask them something about the topic that would also interest you, so that you will find common ground in the topic. Eventually, you can steer the conversation into a directio that would interest you as well.

But with most people, Stephen Covey was right: "seek first to understand before being understood". That is, people want to be understood first before they'll relax, and want to understand you.

5. Ask about...

Ask about things that will keep the conversation going.

How to do this?

Ask open ended questions instead of closed ones (where you can answer with a yes or no).

You can ask them "what's your favorite..." and choose a topic that you know or guess will interest them, based on what you already know about them.

Of you can ask "what do you like best about..."

Or "why do you..."

Just keep it a little specific and not too broad, such as "so what's happening?" as it's so broad that it will not help the peson to start talking.

It's fun to talk about topics with a new person as you learn so much. And yes, they learn heaps about you too when you get your say as well.

6. Be yourself

And yes. Be yourself. This is said often and really can’t be stressed enough. Be yourself on your first date and be as natural and genuine as possible.

If you pretend that you like something when you don't it can be awkward afterwards when the truth comes out.

Also, unless you're a superb liar, most women can tell if a man is lying or is being evasive.

You do not have to be a professional dater to make a great impression, or even have a vast amount of dating experience at all. You do need to be the person you are so that the person you are with can feel comfortable and at ease with you.

7. Always have fun

Remeber that the whole point of meeting someone for a date is to have fun, as well as to get to know them better.

Enjoy the date and keep the conversation fun.

Remember, the great thing about a first date is that it is not a lifetime commitment. It isn’t even a commitment by either party for a second date.

It is what it is and nothing more than that. A first date is a chance to get to know the person you feel an interest in and to see if you're ready to take additional steps in the process of getting to know that person.

Most first dates are very nervous experiences, particularly for those who met online. But it doesn’t have to be.

You would've probably already talked about lots of things online and on the phone, many of these conversations lasting for several hours, I think you will be surprised to find that you will not be struggling as much as you fear for conversation.

Just get to know the other person better and nothing more than that. So go for it and enjoy the experence.

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