How To Write A Personal Ad: Easy Tips To Writing Personal Ads For Online Dating That Gets You Dates

Online dating is nearly becoming a popular method of meeting and dating new people.

So it's important to remember that your personal ad is the very first thing that potential dates and mates will see of you.

In other words, this is your one chance to make your first impression. Your personal ad is your introduction to yourself and as such should be honest, accurate, and positive.

In today’s world, writing a personal ad has become the rule for dating rather than the exception.

More and more people are turning to the security of the Internet rather than risking singles bars and the dangers that arise from going out alone at night and meeting total strangers on the street. There is some degree of security involved in sitting at home reading about other people from the comfort of home and selecting those who seem the most matched to you.

Millions have people have come on board and participated in one form of ‘online dating’ or another. There are several match making services as well as simple online personals that allow uses to pick and choose through a list of profiles that meet certain criteria.

Even celebrity figures such as Dr. Phil are coming on board in order to maximize on the online dating market it has become so vast. Now that we know that millions of people around the world or writing personal ads, let's look at the proper way to write a personal ad.

Top Tips On How To Write A Personal Ad

1. Say something original in the message, so it doesn't look like a standard message that many guys and girls seem to have.

You don't have to be Shakespeare or anything, you just need to make sure that your ad is not something like "female, 40's, looking for romance" even if that's exactly so, because it will look like the other ads, and get ignored!

Find something about yourself that you think is unique and worth mentioning and use that as your opening line, and sprinkle some originality through your message.

Just add something to make the personal ad a bit different, or even attention grabbing if that's your personality, and this will get your ad actually read! A good start!

2. Read the ads of other posters.

Believe it or not this will give you a good idea of what to and what not to do. What sounds good in an ad to you, and what sounds silly, ridiculous, arrogant, and down right obnoxious to you?

Make note of each of these things. You can use what you liked as a model and an a starting point for your own description. It's the best way to get started and when you start, your writing will flow. Just write and write and dont' care for the quality until you're finished and then edit later to make it flow well.

It's much easier than trying to make it perfect as you go along. The flow as you write is when your great ideas come out.

3. Perhaps one of the most important things about writing your personal ad is that you need to be honest.

It may not seem like such a big deal to embellish or exaggerate when you are writing the ad, but it may be a big deal to the person reading the ad. You don’t want to represent yourself as a lover of nature if the closest you’ve been to nature in the last ten years is watching the outdoor living network on television.

You want to put out an accurate representation of the person you are in order to save yourself and the person reading the ads a lot of time and potential heartache. If you're not representing yourself in an accurate way, the truth eventually will come out and then it makes things very difficult.

3. Be positive, not negative, and highlight the things you like about yourself

When you know yourself, it will come across in your description. And this will help youo to attract the kind of person you want because attraction is both ways, and the person reading the ad will recognise somehing in you that they like.

Just say it like it is, and take care not to exaggerate.

And people love to respond to you if you're positive and focusing on what you do want, nd not negative, complaining or focusing on what you don't want.

4. Ask for what you want.

Be aware of who you are and make a point of knowing what you want. Then ask for it! The very fact that you can actually ask for what you are looking for is one of the greatest things about online dating and personal ads.

Have a think about the girl or guy you're looking for and put some of these traits in there. You don't have to put them all, as this may be too intimidating! Just put a few relevant and important ones.

In conclusion, your personal ad is your introduction to the people on the other end of the computer.

These people are your ‘target audience’ if you will and the person you are basically trying to sell yourself, your personality traits, and your relationship hopes to by placing the ad.

Getting noticed is often the difficult part; as I said, make sure you start with something attention grabbing rather than the same old thing that everyone else is saying.

And one more thing, if you use humor in your personal ad, be sure to use it sparingly. The written word doesn’t carry the tones and inflections of the spoken word and it is often difficult to get humor across to those who don’t know you in this manner. You also want the reader on the other end to feel that you are taking the process a little seriously or you won’t be worth their time.

Most importantly remember it’s not an all or nothing process you can go back and make adjustments over time if you feel the need.

Have fun. It is after all supposed to get you a date!